I think this has to be the scariest thing on earth aside my parents yelling my ear off. So, you’ve got a crush, and you’re eager to strike up a conversation so bad, but the nerves kick in, and suddenly, you’re at a loss for words. Don’t worry; we’ve all been there! Oh, and all those macho stuff about creating traps for them to fall in love with you doesn’t work take it from me firsthand(*cue embarrasment*). The best advice my friends gave me, was that i had to talk to him in person. Having a crush is actually really exciting so enjoy it and stop creating battle plans just to say”Hi”. Its not that hard( says she who nearly fell down before saying it). So, I’m here to give you tips on how to talk to your crush in person.
Steps to follow when talking to your crush in person
If your crush already talks to you then the hard part is over you just gotta figure out how to keep the conversation going. And, i mean if you’re already talking to him/her in person and not in your head. Oh yeah, stop idolizing them so much. I get it your heart flutters whenever they smile,yada yada but it’s the idolizing that’s making it hard to talk to them. So, here’s how to talk to your crush in person and not in your head.
- Be Yourself: Don’t try to be someone you’re not or pretend to be interested in things you’re not passionate about. It’s going to save you from lots of awkward questions and situations. I pretended to be interested in basketball and well…it didn’t go so well. Story for another day. So yes, NO PRETENDING.
- Start with a Friendly Greeting: Whether it’s a simple “Hi” or a warm smile but keep the smiling to a minimum. We don’t want to appear like a creep. Initiating contact in a friendly manner sets a positive tone for the conversation. It could take a lot of Hi’ s before a real conversation begins just a warning.
- Introduce yourself: Cliche as it may be you’ve gotta at least talk about yourself a bit because I’m not sure they know you. And this is where friends come in. You could have a friend who’s familiar with said crush. You’re not using the person you have to make it clear why you’re trying to talk to him/her.
- Ask Open-Ended Questions:You’ve already started talking here.Instead of asking yes or no questions, go for open-ended ones that encourage your crush to share more about themselves. For example, instead of asking, “Did you have a good weekend?” try, “What did you do over the weekend?”. Also, ask questions that show an interest in their interests like”what’s your favourite sport and why?”
- listen and find a common ground:Pay attention to what your crush is saying and show genuine interest in their responses.Look for common interests or shared experiences that you can use for conversation. This could be anything from a mutual hobby to a recent event you both attended. This will make them more comfortable with you.
- Be Respectful: Remember to respect your crush’s boundaries and avoid making them feel uncomfortable. If they seem uninterested or hesitant to engage in conversation, don’t push it. Respect their space and try again another time.
- Know When to End the Conversation: As much as you may want to keep talking, it’s important to know when it’s time to wrap up the conversation. Pay attention to cues like body language and the flow of the conversation, and gracefully exit when it feels natural.
- Follow up: If the conversation went well, then congratulations. Keep showing interest, saying those hi’s and those conversations. And,before you know it you’re friends and might soon start hanging out.Then, who knows…
- Don’t Overthink It:Everyone gets nervous when talking to their crush, and that’s completely normal! Try not to overanalyze every word or gesture, and instead focus on enjoying the moment and getting to know the person behind the crush. In other words, don’t be me.
?Tip: I’d suggest having the conversation with them alone like without friends.But, I know that might be hard to get. Because, if there’s no friend then it’s easier. But friends or no friends talk.
?Just in case you figure out after you’ve befriended them, that you’re going to forever? be stuck in the friend zone, then this might help.
So, there you have it my nine tested steps on how to talk to your crush in person. Trust me they’re actually tested and trusted, took a lot of effort though. Even though the crush didn’t lead to something, I did enjoy talking to him.If you want to know more about this then check out this article.
Talking to your crush is all about being yourself and respecting their boundaries. Enjoy the conversation and have fun getting to know them. So, go ahead, be genuine, and let your natural charm shine through! And before tou say it,everyone has a natural charm.
Happy talking,
Stephanie.